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One of my favourite old posts: is god real?

I try and make it a rule to not lie to my kids.

Ok that’s a lie straight away, I tell plenty of fibs when it suits me. For example this morning I told twin boy the Easter Bunny had texted me from his I phone and was about to remove one of his easter eggs from his basket if he didn’t sit and eat his breakfast nicely. However as we all know lying always trips you up and this was the case when twin boy suddenly leapt from his chair whooping with glee shouting;

“I am getting a basket of eggs, so that means more than one!”

Personally I blame the school for teaching him maths.

So I lie for my own benefit and to keep dreams alive.

Santa is real, fairies live amongst the weeds in our garden and yes your face will get stuck that way if the wind changes…

But I try and maintain as much honesty as possible for most things, which is bloody hard work. Take this mornings conversation for example.

Twin boy: “mummy was God the first person in the world?”

Me; “um, sort of well some believe he made the world.”

Twin boy: “what do you believe mummy?”

Me: “I’m not sure darling, I am going to wait and see.”

Twin boy: “but mummy who gave God a special kiss so he could have Jesus?”

Me: “well some believe God invented people so he didn’t need a special kiss.”

Twin boy: “so did God push Jesus out his bottom like Aunty Violet did baby ben?”

Me, faltering: “no Jesus was born to Mary and Joseph who God made.”

Twin Boy: “is God real”

Me, blasphemous: “Dear lord, I am not sure, some think he does others think the world was created by a big bang.”

Really I should just lie, a five year old doesn’t need to know my agnostics beliefs. The worms are out if the can and crawling everywhere!

Twin Boy, panicking “but mummy if God isn’t real, what about heaven? And if there is no heaven and no God then Jesus didn’t die on the cross and come back as a zombie like Daniel said. And if there is no God, no zombie Jesus, no cave for him to hide in and no Easter then there is no Easter bunny and *loudly* no chocolate eggs.”

At this point twin boy turns the colour of beetroot and his lip starts to quiver at the thought of Thornton’s shutting up shop when word gets out that the story of Easter may or may not be true.

Wearily I turn and cuddle my little boy;

“Its ok, God is real darling, Easter is still on.”

I see relief flood over him, a happy child once more.

“But mummy, how did zombie Jesus have two dads? Did they do special kisses? Can boys marry….”

Help me!

Comments

  1. pottijo says

    April 21, 2011 at 8:44 am

    hehehehhe…. love it…. the innocence and wonder and pain in the buttness of kids questions.

    Id say, “understanding about God is bigger that mummy’s brain can cope with, so ask me again when your 27 and I’ve had time to think”

    x

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 9:15 am

      Cracking idea, except that he would start counting down minutes to when he is 27!

      Reply
  2. Emma says

    April 21, 2011 at 8:57 am

    Love it, fabulous post and great conversation.

    It’s much easier in our house; I believe, Rachel believes, mike (dad) doesn’t and Rachel thinks he’s silly.

    One important thing to remember; heaven is a very important concept for children, one which gives them a sense of safety about death. Broach that at your peril.

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 9:17 am

      Fair point! It is so tricky though, but I was raised as a christian confirmed etc, disowned the idea of a God at 16, argued my way through philosphy classes at Uni, rebeled and married out of a church and had my kids named but then an incident last year made me rethink my values and we had our children welcomed into our church for a celebration ceremony. I remain on the fence but I have my own heaven which I still believe in so the kids must share that!

      thanks for commenting emma x

      Reply
  3. Boatwife says

    April 21, 2011 at 9:10 am

    That is brilliant! My 3 yr old also keeps asking about God & we’re atheist but trying to be PC with our answers!

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 9:18 am

      Ha! good luck with that! out of interest what do you day?

      Reply
      • janeblackmore says

        April 21, 2011 at 9:18 am

        i mean what do you say!

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  4. HELEN JESSUP says

    April 21, 2011 at 9:37 am

    easy answer : ask your Dad!
    x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 9:55 am

      Hmm, dads are the reason his friend Daniel thinks Jesus is a zombie!

      Reply
  5. emma says

    April 21, 2011 at 9:42 am

    Thats fantastic! I love the way they think! x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 9:56 am

      It scares me! Lol

      Reply
  6. Tim (aka Dotterel) says

    April 21, 2011 at 9:46 am

    Kids understand more than we sometimes give them credit for. It’s us grown-ups with the hang-ups that have the problem. Because things can be ‘true’ but not ‘real’ (i.e empirically verifiable). Is Shakespeare any less true if there was never a King called Lear? You might be interested in my musings on the Templeton prize, which deals with much the same subject: http://tim-atkinson.blogspot.com/2011/04/templeton-foundation.html

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 10:56 am

      Tim that is a cracking blog – any one would think you are published….

      seriously though it raises some really good points, even a tiny spot has to come from something!

      Please come round and chat to twin boy

      thanks

      Reply
  7. Mcai7td3 says

    April 21, 2011 at 9:49 am

    Hehe wow!! He is a thinker going through the whole chain right to the Easter eggs, he has his priorities in order! Maybe you should keep him away from Daniel though… Zombie Jesus? Hehe, I couldn’t help giggling!

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 11:21 am

      To be fair, zombies do meet the same description! Dead chap coming back to life!

      Reply
  8. JallieDaddy says

    April 21, 2011 at 11:42 am

    Zombie Jesus?! I think I like this Daniel.

    On a serious note I hope to be honest with my twins as much as possible; the less superstition they’re exposed to the better, in my opinion. Ultimately they have to make up their own minds & have their own opinions so I want them to be open minded & question everything. Religion is the antithesis of that.

    Having said that – maybe you should ask me about this again in a few years’ time…

    You could point out that Easter eggs & bunnies were around a long time before Jesus, so Thorntons would still be around? No? OK ๐Ÿ™‚

    Great post as ever

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 12:33 pm

      Hmmm I will return to haunt you when your twins are 5, their appetite for knowledge is insatiable which is fabulous but quite frankly shows up my ignorance in most areas.

      When they were three my kids thought I knew everything whereas now they doubt me. So much so that twin boy asked if I was daft!

      Hmmm maybe if I spent less time blogging about them and more time reading encyclopedias I would be a more informed parent.

      Then again Daddy doesn’t blog and he seems as stumped as me most days!

      Thanks for reading

      Reply
  9. motherporridge says

    April 21, 2011 at 3:14 pm

    zombie jesus. Absolutely priceless.

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 4:54 pm

      and i stole it from my friends son!!!!

      Reply
  10. fastandluce says

    April 21, 2011 at 3:26 pm

    Very good question!!! I (as a RC) was always told I had a “kindergarten view of Christianity” ! I do believe in Adam and Eve and Moses and The Nativity and Easter. BUT….if I stop too long to think about it then scientifically it cant be right! Its a matter of faith and so long as we have faith in SOMETHING (be it a jolly old man with a long white beard sitting on a fluffy cloud surrounded by angels with harps, or even the easter bunny) then I dont think the scientific side should come into it. But I am hugely impressed your kids are being taught those bible stories at school!

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 21, 2011 at 5:19 pm

      I am with you! My beliefs center around an afterlife of some kind and some bigger being but am not sure about organised religion. However it forms a vital part of our history and heritage and our kids future so am pleased they are being educated. Just wish I could articulate it better to a 5 year old

      Reply
  11. Alison Chisnell says

    April 21, 2011 at 8:59 pm

    I do love your blogs – they always make me chuckle. My two ask a LOT of questions about God, Jesus, heaven etc (my fave was “do they have weetabix in heaven?!). If I get stuck – and I often do, even though, ironically, I have a Theology degree! – I resort to the “well no one knows for definite, it’s a bit like magic really” line. Which usually works….until the next time!

    Zombie Jesus though, that’s a classic ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 25, 2011 at 11:29 am

      That is such a good line!

      I am going to try that on the little ones later, I get stuck all the blooming time!

      xx

      Reply
  12. Mother Badger says

    April 21, 2011 at 10:57 pm

    I’m loving Zombie Jesus.

    I’m dreading this conversation with Baby Badger. My mum is heavily Methodist, my father brought up Catholic but now agnostic, and I chose C of E as a child but now also am agnostic. I think it’s up to her to choose whether and what to believe. Father Badger on the other hand is militantly atheist and left unchecked would set out on a mission to convert all local churchgoers to atheism, at gunpoint if necessary. It’s not going to be easy…

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 22, 2011 at 5:02 pm

      Good luck…

      Reply
  13. mummy@bodfortea says

    April 21, 2011 at 11:21 pm

    Brilliant! Thanks for posting this so I can start thinking about what I’m going to say when DD finally asks this question! Great post – in fact my post of the week ๐Ÿ˜€

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 22, 2011 at 5:03 pm

      Aw thanks x x x x

      Reply
  14. Louise says

    April 22, 2011 at 1:31 am

    I fear I have all this to look forward to ๐Ÿ™‚ Too funny, particularly at this time of night. My chuckling nearly woke the baby :-0

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  15. Louise says

    April 22, 2011 at 1:32 am

    I fear I have all this to look forward to ๐Ÿ™‚

    Too funny, particularly at this time of night. My chuckling nearly woke the baby :-0

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 22, 2011 at 5:04 pm

      Shhhhh don’t wake the baby

      Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 22, 2011 at 5:04 pm

      Shhhhh don’t wake the baby…

      Reply
  16. Ali says

    April 22, 2011 at 10:12 pm

    Quote for my, then 4 year old, “I don’t believe that God created the world all on his own, they got it wrong. Mary was his wife and there is no way that she would have sat around watching god do all the work, she probably did more than him, and gave Jesus his bath, put Jesus to bed, and read his story anyway then made the tea.

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 23, 2011 at 7:46 am

      Good girl Crystal

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    • DeliciousNessy says

      April 25, 2011 at 7:45 pm

      that’s the best thing I’ve ever read!!

      Reply
      • janeblackmore says

        April 25, 2011 at 8:25 pm

        Oh you are really too kind!

        would you like me to recommend some books! – I read people loads better than me ๐Ÿ™‚

        xxx

        Reply
        • janeblackmore says

          April 25, 2011 at 8:37 pm

          hehehe just saw you were replying to Ali not me!

          my head has just deflated!

          Reply
  17. CaroleHolland says

    April 23, 2011 at 10:48 am

    I am totally loving Zombie Jesus!

    I take the kids to church with me every week but their Daddy is an ex-Jehovah’s Witness (and a very cynical one at that) so we could have some fun when they start asking questions! In the end though it’s their choice what to believe (except, of course, when it comes to the Easter Bunny & Santa – they are real. I like chocolate and presents…)

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 23, 2011 at 12:47 pm

      Of course they are real! With a bit of help from tescos!!!! X

      Reply
  18. @LincolnAndMe says

    April 23, 2011 at 6:52 pm

    Hahahahaha!!! Pmsl… What a pickle xxx

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 23, 2011 at 8:00 pm

      Hehehe thanks x

      Reply
  19. april says

    April 24, 2011 at 8:13 am

    first time here – hello!.
    True that – faith giving kids some security – I’ve seen it happen. We went from no church ever and a very very anxious child (not connected to religion at all) to church regularly, church school, a belief in something bigger than her that could control things that existed in the world to some extent (thus no “Bloody Mary” or ghosts that can do you harm) and a routine of rosary prayers that now mean she goes to sleep before 10 pm most night as opposed to being up past midnight – out of bed every 5 mins asking me if anything bad would happen.
    It works for her, and it worked for me when I was young.
    I still believe in a something – and I like the community that faith can create.
    I don’t think I would ever definately tell a child anything. I like my two to work it out for themselves more or less. The concept of ‘anything is possible’ is very strong with me.

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 24, 2011 at 9:38 am

      Thanks April, I hope you enjoyed your first time!

      I agree kids need something to believe it and age will allow them time to form their own beliefs as they grow up.

      Thanks for commenting

      Reply
  20. MellyBentley says

    April 24, 2011 at 7:27 pm

    Utterly brilliant post. made be giggle. Well done for handling that one. I am making notes for the future. x

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 24, 2011 at 10:40 pm

      Hehe, I will start charging soon!

      Reply
  21. mymumdom says

    April 24, 2011 at 8:09 pm

    We are atheists and although we lie about Santa, the easter bunny and the tooth fairy, I find I have to be honest about what I believe about god and heaven.
    We use the ‘some people believe’ line and we do get them freaking out about death sometimes, which is hard.
    But we tell them that it’s a long way off, and they don’t have to worry about and when they are older they can choose what they believe.
    Then we usually start talking about reincarnation and what kind of things we’d like to come back as.
    I can remember having panic attacks about death and the concept of ‘forever’ as a kid, so know where they are coming from.

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 24, 2011 at 10:37 pm

      Its a tricky one to be sure. My kids think we all pop our clogs at 100. Which is cool until they go and see their nan in her nineties…..

      Reply
  22. urbanvox says

    April 25, 2011 at 11:49 am

    lol!!!! LOVE IT!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 25, 2011 at 12:32 pm

      Thanks we aim to please

      Reply
  23. DeliciousNessy says

    April 25, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    I read once about a mum who was having the death and heaven conversation with her son. She was brought up in Northern Ireland and had abandoned religion after witnessing the destruction it brought.
    She explained death to her son by likening it to before he was born. Saying that, although he didn’t remember it, it wasn’t something scary and you would be in a safe place. It seemed to work well!

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    • janeblackmore says

      April 25, 2011 at 8:32 pm

      Thats sounds like a good plan; I like that!

      Reply
  24. Pooky Hesmondhalgh says

    April 25, 2011 at 8:16 pm

    I read your blog every day but via email so don’t get a chance to comment but had to on this one. YOu must work out the answers and help me. You’ve filled me a fear so big I don’t know if I can tame it, even with a never ending supply of bonios.

    So please Jane. pretty please, figure out how to deal with such questions. i too am agnostic. Him indoors is aetheist and the little one’s birth family are god people.

    uh oh…we’re in trouble!

    —

    In other news I got off my fat ass and started to write my blog again (basically because I had stopped because little’un’s birth mum was stalking me but in the end I have decided f**K it!

    Please can you help me get back in the swing by letting me know if there are any blog carnivals or meme type things etc? Thank you! xxx

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      April 25, 2011 at 8:36 pm

      I saw the blog was back and was extremly happy when it buzzed through on my blackberry yesterday! I will pop over there in a bit and start commmenting!

      are you a member of british mummy bloggers? they list all the carnivals?

      also the gallery – @tara_cain on twitter?

      I will link you to any memes that come my way but be warned I am rubbish at them!!!

      nice to have you back Pooky – also I have no idea how to deal with these questions! thats why I blog! ๐Ÿ™‚

      Reply

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