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Working Mum: The Perfect Compromise….

I stumbled into the house tired, a bit fed up, trying to balance three children and an almost full time job at times can be a little demanding and today I was feeling it.

However, sensing my air of grumpiness he who helped create them came to meet me from the train station to ease my journey home and as I climbed into the car the first thing I saw was elation spread over BB’s face as she realised I was back.  Her little hands waved frantically at me and then she stretched out her palm to grip my fingers in hers.  Nothing says I love you better than a baby who doesn’t need words to say you are the centre of her world.

As my short time with my children got closer to bedtime I settled in for some reading with Twin Boy, at one point as his finger brushed over the new words he was learning to sound he paused for a moment, placed his head in my hand and murmured ‘you’re the best mum’.  At a time when I feel I spend more hours at work than at home those four little words wormed their way into my heart and have warmed me from within.

With BB asleep, Twin Boy cuddled and tucked into bed, I wrapped my arms around twin girl and placed a kiss on her cheek.  ‘I love you mummy’ she said softly in my ear.  I quickly replied as I hugged her closer, ‘I love you more little girl’, as quick as lightning she bounced back ‘no I love you more.’  Maintain my stance in an argument based on affection I confirm I loved her even more, to which she pulled me to her tightly and said ‘shall we love each other the same and make sure it is more than anything.’

I’ll take that as a perfect compromise.

Comments

  1. Michelle says

    November 3, 2011 at 9:10 pm

    This brought tears to my eyes. Just perfect 🙂 Enjoy every moment x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:13 am

      Thanks x x x

      Reply
  2. Emma @mummymummymum says

    November 3, 2011 at 9:14 pm

    oh bless you. Lovely, lovely post. xx

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:13 am

      Ta x

      Reply
  3. Holly says

    November 3, 2011 at 9:32 pm

    She’s bright that little twin girl. Lovely post Jane xxx

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:12 am

      Thanks mrs x x x x

      Reply
  4. Belnicholls says

    November 3, 2011 at 9:33 pm

    Awww. Lovely. I’m having the same dilemma. So don’t enjoy the nursery run before and after. But only be back to work from maternity for 3 weeks. Hopefully it will settle down.

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:11 am

      It will x

      Reply
  5. Susan Eardley says

    November 3, 2011 at 9:52 pm

    Ahhh, that sounds like the most perfect way to come home!!! It’s amazing when it works like that!

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:11 am

      Thanks, it is also rare….

      Reply
  6. Caroline says

    November 3, 2011 at 10:04 pm

    Gorgeous. I do think that ‘working’ mums appreciate these things even more sometimes, maybe just a smidge.

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:10 am

      I agree, just a smidge x

      Reply
  7. Kate, WitWitWoo says

    November 4, 2011 at 9:37 am

    No, I love YOU more! 🙂 Gorgeous post. Having been a full time working single mother, I know all about trying to balance work/homelife and always feeling torn. It’s just ‘urgh’ isn’t it. But it really sounds like you’re doing a fab job – our kids soon tell us if we’re not! 🙂 x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 5:06 pm

      Awwww love you too

      Reply
  8. Sarah Durbs says

    November 4, 2011 at 2:13 pm

    Definitely relate to this post, Jane. I went back to work full time when my first child (now 15) was only a matter of weeks old. I was a single parent in those days and had no choice. Whilst I didn’t think it at the time, after having my boy (now 5), taking a year out, and then only going back to work part time, I often wonder how much relationship building my daughter and I missed out on. I don’t think I need worry though as last night whilst we were at a concert together she turned to me and said “I know we sometimes argue but I do like and respect you, Mum”. From my teenager, that was precious! The boy and I have the “love you”, “love you more” exchanges and those too are heart melting.

    I work for my own sanity and satisfaction….and I know I am a better Mum for it. Staying on top of it all can be tough, and sometimes I fail – like when I missed/forgot my boy’s first parents evening – but I agree, the compromise is definately worth it 🙂

    Keep doing that you’re doing!!

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 5:07 pm

      Really? A 15 year old? I need to borrow your moisteriser.

      Thanks for comment, I love my job but find myself wishing daily for more time in all areas of my life!

      Sounds like your daughter is a good un!

      Reply
  9. mothersalwaysright says

    November 4, 2011 at 2:16 pm

    Ah, I’ve gone all warm and fuzzy. They’ve got their heads screwed on the right way, your kids. Lovely. x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 5:09 pm

      Ta x x

      Reply
  10. Bibsey Mama says

    November 4, 2011 at 3:51 pm

    Lovely post. Fab kids.

    Sometimes I feel guilty for the fact that I am not working and making a financial contribution. Then I read a post like this and remember to just feel lucky that I have a brilliant job AT home and to enjoy it while it lasts.

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 5:09 pm

      Definetly!

      Enjoy it

      Xxxx

      Reply
  11. helloitsgemma says

    November 4, 2011 at 7:20 pm

    given your reputation for competition – the end of that post really surprised me. You must have been very tired.

    Love you more than anything anything X

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:56 pm

      you too honey x

      Reply
  12. Expat Mammy says

    November 4, 2011 at 7:42 pm

    Ah my heart has just melted, cute wee lamb

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 4, 2011 at 8:57 pm

      awwwww thanks

      Reply
  13. Blue Sky says

    November 4, 2011 at 10:25 pm

    Treasure it and may they always give you so much love. Occasionally, just occasionally my 19 yr old gives me a spontaneous hug and tells me she loves me, and it means just as much as it did when she was just 19 months xx

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    • janeblackmore says

      November 5, 2011 at 12:43 pm

      God I hope mine do!

      xxx

      Reply
  14. Muddling Along says

    November 7, 2011 at 5:12 pm

    Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 7, 2011 at 9:58 pm

      Cute aint they!

      Reply
  15. Notmyyearoff says

    November 8, 2011 at 11:39 am

    Aww how lovely and perfect. I can’t wait for my little boy to start talking now!

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 8, 2011 at 5:56 pm

      Lol! It is a rarity!

      Reply
  16. Maria Mesias (@manaiasmama) says

    November 8, 2011 at 1:28 pm

    love this post. i’ve just taken a few days off work as i hadn’t seen my baby (aged 2yrs10mths) and she hasn’t left my side and is constantly putting her arms round my neck saying I love you. it both breaks my heart and warms my heart. I guess all working mothers have this x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 8, 2011 at 6:02 pm

      We do, working mums guilt!

      Reply
  17. motherporridge says

    November 8, 2011 at 5:23 pm

    That’s just so lovely x

    Reply
    • janeblackmore says

      November 8, 2011 at 6:02 pm

      Thank you x

      Reply

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