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Parenting a Type1 Child: Have you grieved yet ?

Have you grieved yet ?

These were words said to me by our diabetic nurse, about 3 weeks after diagnosis when we sat in my bungalow having a cup of tea with the smell of insulin in the air.

Grieved?

In 3 weeks I had bitten nails, not washed hair, eaten only medical books, read every potential cure for an incurable condition

I’d taken a sabbatical from work, convinced myself I would never go out again for a meal, or have a weekend away.

Fretted over my other two children, looked into trials to see if they were potential Type 1 kids.

I’d managed a day trip with a rucksack packed with insulin, sharps bin (full size), needles, testing strips, apple juice, and had a picnic with hand written carb signs on it.

I’d also dedicated a huge amount of time to standing over my daughter whilst she slept, waiting for hypos to happen without having any technology to tell me they had.

No I hadn’t scheduled in time to grieve.  I barely scheduled in time to breathe.

Turns out those were the best words anyone could have said to me.

Because later when I drove to the supermarket for more carb free snacks, I let myself think.

I let myself breathe.

I let myself cry.

And I mean cry – huge wracking snot infested sobs.   In the car park of Aldi.

I cried for the life I thought I was going to have and then I cried about the life my beautiful little girl had been given.    I went to a dark place, I cried about how the hell was I supposed to be a medical pro.  Up until 4 weeks ago diabetes was just something we joked about getting from eating regular McDonalds and now I was an acting pancreas in charge.

I cried until I felt better.

Until I could wipe my eyes and walk into Aldi looking like a woman on the edge.

I walked in, bought all the cheese and sugary sweets and eyeballed the cashier daring her to question my food choices.

She didn’t – but I told her anyway.

“My daughter is diabetic – these are her snacks and these will help keep her alive.
We have only recently been diagnosed and it’s really hard.  But I think we are going to be ok.”

And I flounced out the shop.

That was almost a decade ago.

And the first day where I really recognised I was important too.  The condition is secondary to mine and my daughters life.

We have lived that way ever since.

If you have not grieved yet – make time – that cry could be the start of something new.

 

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I help parents of children with Type 1 Diabetes cope with the pain of diagnosis and live a happy life.

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  1. Gina says

    May 9, 2021 at 2:07 pm

    Beautiful piece of writing and so true and Im sure it will help many new parents who come across your writing.I hope some dsn’s also follow your blog – at a DSN conference I’m sure you would make a wonderful speaker

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