8 Ways to Change Your Mindset and Not be a Victim….

In past years I have been a victim.

I mean my life has been hard….

Until I meet someone whose life has been harder, and then I am forced to reconsider the gauge of hardness.

“Life is hard,” a friend said to me today.

But, even as I type those words I am shaking my head.  Because, life is a gift, a beautiful sensory experience that has peaks and troughs but is entirely what we make it.

What makes it is your mindset.

When I thought life was hard, it was because I have lived with poorly kids, with children who spent more time in hospital than out in their younger years.  At one point it felt like we were just reeling from one diagnosis when another surgery date was delivered.

I coped throughout, then one day burnout descended and chaos occurred.

Every damn step I took back then, let me to here, to the happiest I have been in forever.

What I thought was hard, what I used as an excuse to pause my own dreams, was simply an obstacle put in my way.

As I have grown and developed, I have learnt that the more you look for disasters the more they present.  However, when you look for sunshine, you can usually find it hiding behind a cloud.

Viewing life as tough is exhausting, as you propel yourself on adrenalin waiting for the next disappointment.  Acceptance of the challenges and pivoting your mindset to the positive; is one way to raise yourself higher every single day and to enjoy the sweet beauty that is all around us.

I’m not saying it is easy.

Mindset changes never are.

But, if you can, you will wake up every morning reborn and full of a desire to taste the offerings of the day like never before.

Be grateful for everything that comes your way.  Thank the rain for falling to make the grass greener, and thank the sun for warming your skin.

You choose good or bad, you evoke that mental state, and you can change from being a half empty glass to one that is halfway full to opportunity.

I am not saying that if you simply paint a smile on life will be better, but these techniques will help you find the fun and love that exists in life.

1. Live in the present, save for the future, don’t regret the past or worry about what is to come.
2. Be grateful – write it down, say it out loud.  My bedtime routine is to wash my face, brush my teeth and say 10 things I am grateful for.  My day always ends the same way – filled with positivism and gratitude.
3. Look for the good in every situation, it is there, somewhere.  The dog has shat on the carpet, well you wanted a new one anyway and this has just hastened the process.
4. Let go of what you can’t control, and always be the best person you can be.
5. Write down your goals, plan them and pursue them like a hungry wilder beast at lunchtime.
6. Give and give some more.  Once I accepted the law of karma into my soul – life became eternally more substantially fantastic.
7. Open your mind to new ideas and challenge your own beliefs (old Jane would have laughed her ass of if you had suggested two years ago that she would often be found sat with thumb to finger meditating on life.   Guess what present day Jane does every day…..)
8. Love and do it with an intensity that scares you.  Never miss an opportunity to tell someone how you feel.

Try it for a month.

I guarantee you will enjoy your days more than when you were a victim.