It is something (BB’s test results)

It is something (BB’s test results)

“It is something,” she says.

And for a moment the street you are walking on falls into silence.  The man sitting outside Starbucks pauses midway through his coffee, the child in the pushchair stops his wail of despair.  Your breath gets caught in your throat, and your palms turn sweaty and your eyes sting with the threat of oncoming tears, and you still don’t know what something is.

“Are you there?” she says, speaking louder down the phone.

And you croak a reply that sounds like yes whilst your head spins back to the last time you were told it ‘was something.’ When you stood with your older child in a doctors surgery as the nurse looked at you gently, and told you your eldest daughter was dangerously ill, and needed to go to hospital immediately.

Then something was diabetes.

But now, as the world hangs on something, and the disembodied voice waits to tell you what it is, you can only fear the worse and in a split second you see the end of it all.

“We only have some of the tests back, but it has shown something.”

Your breath now threatens to choke you, overwhelm you; whilst you battle with the theory that perhaps not knowing is better.

“So far, we can see she has a hormone deficiency,” the voice begins “that is causing her low blood sugars, it seems to be her growth hormone, which links to the pituitary gland.

For a moment an irrational thought flies into your mind, your three year old is hormonal, does that explain the tantrums and the sometimes diva like performances?

“We need to do more tests, I’m sorry.”

You snap back into seriousness, when doctors say they are sorry, it normally means something is going to be crap.

“We need to do a brain scan, to rule out tumours, it is rare.”

Tumours – that bloody word again.  It keeps cropping up, mixed with the word unlikely, but it pops up all the same.

“Now don’t worry, she has had a MRI before?”

Silently you mouth; “three, my three year old daughter has had three, this will be her eighth general anesthetic.”

You struggle to keep up as new words are forced into your head. The world is still silent as new knowledge finds a place in your brain.

“She will need hormones, by injection, maybe once, maybe twice a day, until puberty ends.”

Puberty? Your daughter has yet to master writing; the end of puberty is a lifetime away.  Injections, you bloody hate injections.

“Hopefully it won’t be anything more, but the tests, the new tests they will tell us more.  I’m sorry.”

Sorry, there she goes again, apologising, scaring the shit out of me.

“Before the MRI, we will starve her, give her sugar, let her drop, and take more blood.  It is a rough test.”

You remember the twelve vials from last time, lined up, dripping with your youngests blood.  Does she any more left? Will it hurt her like last time?

“Do you understand Jane? I will write in a letter? It will be ok, please don’t worry.”

You think, “I am a mother, how can I not worry?”

You hang up the phone, the world awakens.

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    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 9:59 pm

      🙂 tis what we do x

  1. August 21, 2013 / 9:35 pm

    Your poor child, Jane. Poor you. Am hating what you’re going through. Wish you wouldn’t write it so heart stoppingly well. Could hardly breathe myself, so dread how it’s feeling your end. Big fat good wishes to you all and keeping everything crossed xxx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:00 pm

      thanks (and for the writing compliment :))

  2. August 21, 2013 / 9:35 pm

    I cannot comprehend how you deal with this. You are amazing for sharing it so eloquently. Life is crap sometimes but remember you are amazing and so is she! xxx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:00 pm

      Thanks 🙂 x

  3. August 21, 2013 / 9:35 pm

    I don’t know what to say apart from: Big hugs. I know you all will get through this. Your little lady is a tough cookie x

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:00 pm

      Thank you x

  4. August 21, 2013 / 9:36 pm

    Jayne I have no words, tears are stinging my eyes and my heart is racing to you and yours x

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:00 pm

      Thanks mrs x

  5. August 21, 2013 / 9:37 pm

    Huge love for you Jane. I cannot imagine how hard the waiting and testing must be. x

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:09 pm

      Thanks anna

  6. August 21, 2013 / 9:38 pm

    oh Jane, I’m so sorry BB has to endure more tests and more time in the hospital. If there is anything I can do just ask. Lots of love, Emma xx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:00 pm

      Thanks emma x

  7. August 21, 2013 / 9:39 pm

    Oh fuck a duck. I’m speechless. Poor little sod and poor you. Give us a shout if you need anything I’m only up the road xx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:08 pm

      Cheers chuck x

  8. August 21, 2013 / 9:42 pm

    GAh! Bugger! Seriously shit. Sorry for swearing. There’s only so much wine…
    Sorry you’re having to go through all this crap 🙁 xxx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:01 pm

      there is gin though!

  9. August 21, 2013 / 9:45 pm

    oh bloody hell Jane…we’re all here behind you, big hugs xx

  10. August 21, 2013 / 9:52 pm

    I can’t think of a single thing to say that would be of any help. But if she is anything like her Mummy and big sister she’ll face it head on and take it in her stride. Hugs for you all xx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 9:53 pm

      Thanks lovely lady x

  11. Mummiafelice
    August 21, 2013 / 9:56 pm

    I am lost for words. I am thinking of you and your precious girl xxx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:01 pm

      Thanks x x x x x

  12. Kerry
    August 21, 2013 / 9:56 pm

    Oh bugger. Bugger, Bugger, Bugger. I hope they get you in for the test s soon so they can be done and over with so you can move forward. I want to say I wish it wasn’t happening but it is and so I will say I hope that you get all of the information and medication that you need for BB and that you can find the strength within you to deal with this on top of everything else.

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 9:57 pm

      Thank you lovely

  13. August 21, 2013 / 9:59 pm

    It is truly the crappest of the crap that your little one is 3 and going through all this poking and prodding and scanning.
    All I can say is that I have a benign tumour on my pituitary gland, which affects my hormones. And it means that I have to take a tablet every day – and that’s it.
    Probably because your daughter is so young and it’s affecting her growth hormone, that’s why she needs injections.
    But I guess what I’m saying is that it can be a tumour and it can mean treatment for the rest of her life. But that can be OK. Once the hormone imbalance is detected, it can be put right with medication so she lives her life just like the rest of us.
    Sending hugs at this scary time xxxx

    • northernmum
      August 21, 2013 / 10:02 pm

      Thanks Donna, that’s awesome x

  14. August 21, 2013 / 11:42 pm

    Oh I am so sorry – and why on Earth did they tell you that over the phone! I wish I knew what to say. You are a remarkable woman and you will help her get through whatever it is she has to cope with. Sending you all love and hugs xx

    • August 23, 2013 / 11:10 am

      Thanks we wanted to be told by phone, speeds it all up xxx

  15. August 22, 2013 / 12:01 am

    Hi, came across your blog on loveallblogs. I read the post about your daughters tests and was drawn in. I hope things turn out to be much better than you think. x

    • August 23, 2013 / 11:11 am

      Thanks am sure it will be ok in the wash x

  16. Sian
    August 22, 2013 / 2:10 am

    Ah Jane. Am thinking of you and Libby-Sue, Lovely xXx

  17. August 22, 2013 / 6:11 am

    Oh Jane, I don’t even know where to begin. Sending hugs and a lot of Gin x

  18. August 22, 2013 / 6:13 am

    Life can be pissy sometimes, can’t it? Much love to you and your family x
    Elinor x

  19. August 22, 2013 / 6:19 am

    How awful! Must be such a difficult time; hope you can find out what’s going on soon x

  20. August 22, 2013 / 6:25 am

    Oh Jane. Bloody hell. Sending love, hugs and positive vibes xxx

  21. August 22, 2013 / 6:41 am

    Oh dear love, an very sorry.

  22. August 22, 2013 / 7:34 am

    Oh you guys, jeez. I hope life gives you a break soon, doesn’t seem fair how much you’ve had to deal with recently. Amazing that you can still write so incredibly well about something so tough. Big love xx

  23. Merry
    August 22, 2013 / 7:49 am

    Oh bloody hell Jane 🙁

    It is always bloody something with these kids 🙁

    Hugging you hard.

  24. August 22, 2013 / 8:12 am

    Bugger. So unfair. Huge amount of love to you. I may squeeze you so hard that you burst next time I see you xxx

  25. August 22, 2013 / 8:28 am

    I read the post about BB having the tests a few days ago and had to ask Hubby, the doc, to explain it as I couldn’t get my head round what she was going through and the difference between that and diabetes which your older child has. All these bloody sugar levels, ups and downs, injections! Jane, I ache for you, as any mother would.

  26. August 22, 2013 / 9:48 am

    I don’t want to say ‘sorry’ because it doesn’t sound good enough. I wish I could hug you really, but I just hope you get the strength to deal with something not many of us cannot truly understand.

  27. August 22, 2013 / 12:21 pm

    You poor loves, sending strength and love x

  28. August 22, 2013 / 1:15 pm

    Sorry doesn’t cover it, sending you all lots of strength to get through this xx

  29. August 22, 2013 / 1:23 pm

    Oh Jane – sending lots of inadequate love and hugs

  30. August 22, 2013 / 3:32 pm

    You write about this so frankly and eloquently. I don’t know what to say except that I hope the tests are all over soon so that you know exactly what you’re dealing with and can face it head on. And also I know from first hand experience that the word ‘tumour’, even if unlikely, is terrifying but (as Donna said) tumours can be benign. I had one removed a few years ago and have only a scar to show for it.

  31. August 22, 2013 / 4:32 pm

    Jane, I am so sorry to hear about this, I really, really am. It reads like a sick joke….. when will it all end. I am thinking of you. Let’s hope these next set of tests come back with more hopeful news. (ps brilliantly written). XXX

  32. Deliciousnessy
    August 22, 2013 / 5:26 pm

    How sh*t! I wish I had something better to say to you.
    You are in my thoughts. How lucky BB is to have such a strong mummy to help her through but neither of you should have to.
    Much love xxx

  33. August 22, 2013 / 5:34 pm

    How cruel the world is 🙁

    Hugs all round

  34. Helloitsgemma
    August 22, 2013 / 6:32 pm

    Can I just say – that was beautifully written and you are BB are very special. Am here if I can be in anyway helpful x

  35. August 22, 2013 / 11:10 pm

    Shit. I was reading this thinking ‘there’ll be a punchline coming soon’ it’ll be a funny story not a sad story. Really hope that the doctor is right and there is nothing to worry about.

  36. August 23, 2013 / 7:37 am

    Sat here thinking of something to say, but only virtual hugs ((((()))))) seem to do it xxx

  37. August 23, 2013 / 11:01 am

    Thinking of you Jane and sending you lots of good wishes and (very useless) virtual hugs. xx

  38. August 24, 2013 / 7:41 pm

    Oh Jane, huge huge hugs to you and BB! If hospital is local to me let me know when you are in & I’ll pop in with some cake when it is done.

  39. August 27, 2013 / 6:40 pm

    I’m lost for words reading this , sending my thoughts to you and your little girl xx

  40. August 30, 2013 / 6:54 am

    Hope you are all bearing up okay Jane

  41. August 31, 2013 / 7:50 pm

    x x x

  42. August 31, 2013 / 9:11 pm

    Oh goodness, sorry to be so late commenting – so sorry you and your utterly beautiful little girl have to go through all this – sending big hugs and hopefully a little bit of strength! xx

  43. September 1, 2013 / 10:03 pm

    Oh Jane, sorry I just want to shout ‘for f**ks sake, How much does one mother have to go through?’.

    So sorry to read this but glad they know what it is and are doing something.

    Mich x

  44. September 14, 2013 / 9:15 pm

    oh honey you guys really are going through the mill you poor poor things. Sending you all huge hugs xxx

    • northernmum
      September 15, 2013 / 8:42 pm

      Thanks 🙂

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