Making Waves for Alex: Seeing Love

Making Waves for Alex: Seeing Love

My children asked me once what love looked like and I struggled to find the words to answer, how to you describe the most over powering emotion in the world, how can you make a feeling a vision?

I had the extraordinary good luck to see love this weekend, to stand in a room filled with it and to later leave that room touched by it.

This weekend I went to the Making Waves for Alex Ball. I went to this ball which was organised by a blogger, a woman I have never met before but whose story has reached out across the internet and made me want to be a part of what she is trying to achieve.

Tamsyn is a mum to four, she looks like has just stepped out of a glossy magazine and I think I have retained her share of the baby weight, but still I can’t dislike her. Tamsyn is married to Alex and from all I have read the pair idolise each other.y

On October 4th 2011 Alex went to rugby practice in their home in France and suddenly life for Tamsyn, Alex and their children changed in a second when  he suffered a head injury in practice which led to him having two life saving operations and three months in a coma from which his wife was told he wouldn’t awake.

Take a minute to read that again, a happily married father to four young children walked out of his home to play a game of rugby and never came home again.  A freak accident which has changed their fate forever and rewritten their hopes and dreams.

Everytime I speak to Tamsyn it reminds me how precious life is and teaches me to savour ever moment, every experience, every giggle from my children and every kiss from my husband;  we really never know what lies around the corner.  How can going out to practice a bit of sport be so devastating to a family?

I met Alex and Tamsyn for the first time this weekend, defying the odds Alex woke from the coma and is now in neuro re-education .  His recover will take years and the doctors feel his sight may never recover but with support, patience, medical intervention and money (yes lots of money) who knows what the future is for Alex and how far he will travel.

His beautiful wife, whilst raising four children, is also running fund raising campaigns, trying to get her husband back home, battling the government for adequate support and when she has some free time she also writes a blog.  She is simply inspirational.

Last Saturday, her superbly organised ball raised twelve thousand pounds, a testament to her hard work.  The event was fabulous and I don’t believe there was a dry eye in the house when Alex was helped from his wheelchair to dance with the mother of his children.

Why am I telling you this?

I didn’t know Tamsyn until recently, now I do and I want to help, I hope in reading these words some of you will be touched enough to donate some more much needed funds to help Alex in his recovery.  The NHS only cover so much of what is needed to get Alex back to being Alex, much much more is needed.

Life is precious, don’t wait until tomorrow, a pound is better than nothing, a gesture is better than silence.  If you can’t donate please share Tamsyn’s words, share her blog and raise awareness.  Share on twitter, facebook and anywhere else you think it could inspire some more support.

Last weekend I got to see what love looked like, and it was dancing.

To donate please click here .

To meet Alex before and after his accident please watch this short video.

Thank you xxx


  1. February 11, 2013 / 1:35 pm

    really touching post Jane, beautifully written. They are a very inspiring couple who need everyone’s support.
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:40 pm


  2. February 11, 2013 / 4:41 pm

    Every word, brought a tear to my eye, Tamsyn is amazing, she is my Wonder Woman, a wonderful lady and I am so priviliegded to have met her and can’t wait to again, your words are perfect xxx
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:40 pm


  3. February 11, 2013 / 5:36 pm

    Lovely, powerful post – funny how one day life is ticking along …. and then the way it can change so, so dramatically.

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:41 pm

      teaches you to live every moment

  4. February 11, 2013 / 6:47 pm

    Completely inspirational, and it was so wonderful to see how much respect and love she commands amongst hers and Alex’s family. I’m gutted I didn’t get to see them dance together. I can’t wait to see what Alex achieves next!
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:41 pm

      Me too x

  5. February 11, 2013 / 7:35 pm

    Beautifully written and sums up the night perfectly. The most humbling occasion I’ve been privileged enough to attend. Xx

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:41 pm

      That! exactly x

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:41 pm

      Thanks x x x x x

  6. February 11, 2013 / 8:27 pm

    beautiful post – thank you so SO much for coming, meant so much to have your support xxxx
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:42 pm


    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:42 pm

      It was incredible!

  7. HPMcQ
    February 11, 2013 / 8:42 pm

    Wonderful post for an outrageously wonderful lady. I had the joy of meeting her recently, what a truly gorgeous lady she is x
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:42 pm

      She is amazing

  8. February 11, 2013 / 8:44 pm

    wow, i was brought to tears by this post, will you all stop making me cry please??

    thank you SO much for being there, i was so lucky to meet you all and so amazed at the support.

    now, about your remark…;)

    thank you jane for being there…

    absolutely loved u!! xxx
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    • katie
      February 11, 2013 / 9:14 pm

      Loved every word. I have never met Tamsyn or Alex but i love them both. I found out about there story through twitter and have followed it ever since. Tamsyn (suppermum) is one amazing lady her love for Alex and her children is legendary. I’d like to send some money but haven’t got a paypal, due to not having a bank account (grr) long story. I always share manic mum’s blogs on face book and twitter, as to me the whole world should hear this story of courage and love .
      My hope for them all now is for Alex to be able to live with his family in a house adapted specially for Alex’s need’s, exactly where they live now as their children have had enough upheaval and are settled now. They just need the right house. x

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:43 pm

      You too x xx x x x

  9. February 11, 2013 / 8:56 pm

    It was a wonderful evening, my family and I were so pleased to be a part of it. xxx

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:43 pm


  10. February 11, 2013 / 9:14 pm

    I am so so sad and so so sorry that I could not be there.

    It was a pleasure to read this though, and know how special an event it was.

    Liska xxx
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:44 pm


  11. February 11, 2013 / 10:21 pm

    Wow. Just wow. Makes me re-evaluate and feel lucky for every moment we have – so quickly things can change.
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    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:44 pm


  12. February 11, 2013 / 10:56 pm

    From everything I’ve heard it was an amazing evening! Well done all and such a huge amount of money raised! A truly inspirational video which is abt – they’re a truly inspirational couple!

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:44 pm

      They really are, they make you want to be better!

  13. February 12, 2013 / 12:25 am

    Great post, Jane. They are a wonderful family.

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:45 pm

      truely are

    • northernmum
      February 18, 2013 / 8:45 pm


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